Jory Wilson
MY PERSONAL STORY
Breaking the Silence
That mantra kept generations of men in my family from taking a long look in the mirror and acknowledging that something might be wrong.
The explicit words—COMPULSIVE SEXUAL BEHAVIOR—were never mentioned, but the meaning was always acutely understood. Those three little words kept fear, sadness, depression, and anxiety on the inside. Meanwhile, anger, addiction, compulsive behavior, and isolation played out on the outside.
A Turning Point
After years of suffering in this shadowy isolation, I decided I had to try something different—or I would succumb to the disconnect between my heart and my body. I would be destined to walk the earth as a shell of myself.
The Collapse Before the Rebuild
I stepped out of the shadows and into the light… and everything came crumbling down around me. I left my career, my marriage was in flux, and I had no idea where life would take me next.
That was precisely when I stepped through the doors of the man who would be my guide through the treacherous waters of rebuilding a life.
A New Beginning
From that time to now, everything has changed. I have obtained freedom from compulsive sexual behavior. My wife and I are doing better than we’ve ever been. We’ve welcomed the most precious, fun, and funny little girl into our family unit. And I have become a guide through the chaotic and terrifying journey of recovery—just as my therapist, Alex, was for me.
Jory is currently offering virtual intensives for couples impacted by Compulsive Sexual Behaviors, Affairs and other forms of addictive behavior.
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COUNSELING FOR COUPLES IMPACTED BY SEX ADDICTION
Navigating the Strain of Addiction in a Relationship
Marriage can often feel like walking a tightrope, especially when addiction or emotional distance enters the picture. I know firsthand how devastating it can be when a relationship is strained by compulsive behavior, mistrust, or an inability to connect.
Rebuilding Trust and Emotional Intimacy
Couples counseling is where we begin to unravel these issues—whether the source is addiction, trauma, or years of emotional shutdown—and work on rebuilding the bond that brought you together.
We don’t just focus on managing symptoms; we dig deeper to understand the root causes of disconnection. By creating a safe space for both partners to express themselves without judgment, we open the door to empathy and understanding.
Moving Forward Together
Couples counseling is not about pointing fingers or placing blame. Instead, it’s about finding a way forward together. It’s a journey that requires vulnerability, patience, and commitment, but the rewards—a stronger, more resilient partnership—are worth it.
If you and your partner are ready to take that step, you don’t have to go through this alone. Healing is possible, and I’m here to help.
INDIVIDUAL THERAPY FOR THE ACTING-OUT PARTNER
Understanding the Root Causes of Addiction
While couples counseling is crucial for healing the relationship, it’s equally important for the acting-out partner to work on their own recovery. Addiction, whether it’s sexual compulsivity or another form of destructive behavior, often stems from deeper emotional wounds—trauma, shame, or unmet needs that haven't been addressed.
Breaking the Cycle
My approach is to help you break the cycle of compulsive behavior by identifying the triggers and underlying issues that keep you stuck. Together, we’ll develop healthier coping strategies that allow you to reconnect with yourself, your partner, and the life you want to live.
A Safe Space for Growth
Individual therapy provides a space for self-reflection, accountability, and growth without the pressure of the relationship’s dynamics. By doing this work, you’re not only taking responsibility for your own healing but also setting the stage for a healthier, more fulfilling relationship.
MORE ON SEX AND SEX ADDICTION
How Modern Technology Fuels Sex Addiction
The hidden world of pornography has reshaped how recent generations view sex and sexuality. Due to the invention of the smartphone and other technological advancements, what was once considered taboo has become normative in adolescent development.
Like many aspects of society, what is deemed “normal” does not necessarily mean “healthy.”
The Dangers of Digital Sexuality
Children as young as elementary-school-aged are walking around with unfiltered access to pornography. High school and college-aged individuals are forgoing intimate and sexual relationships in favor of digital, transactional sex. Men and women all over the world are finding themselves succumbing to the monster that is sex addiction.
Like any good monster, sex addiction consumes until there is nothing left. It does not care about jobs, marriages, hobbies, relationships—only about feeding its compulsive desire for more… more intensity, more frequency, more destruction, NO MATTER THE COST.
If you are reading this, then there is a high likelihood that you are familiar with this kind of monster.
AFFAIR RECOVERY
The Unique Pain of Betrayal
Affair recovery is distinct from addressing compulsive sexual behavior. While compulsive sexual behavior often involves addiction and internal emotional struggles, affair recovery focuses on the unique pain and rupture caused by a betrayal of trust.
Healing the Emotional Wounds
For the betrayed partner, this may mean addressing feelings of anger, heartbreak, and insecurity. For the partner who had the affair, it involves owning their actions, understanding the profound impact of their choices, and working to rebuild trust through accountability and transparency.
Rebuilding the Foundation
Affair recovery is about addressing the specific relational dynamics that led to infidelity. It’s a journey of repairing trust, strengthening communication, and fostering emotional intimacy. Unlike addiction recovery, affair recovery centers on healing the relational breach and moving forward together.
If you’re facing the aftermath of an affair, know that transformation is possible.
CERTIFIED SEX ADDICTION THERAPIST (CANDIDATE)
What Is a CSAT?
Certified Sex Addiction Therapists (CSAT) are professionals who have undergone specialized training to treat individuals experiencing unwanted or compulsive sexual behaviors.
CSATs take a deep dive into the root of compulsive behavior—often trauma—and provide a step-by-step guide to healing both the behavior and the wound it is protecting.
THERE IS HOPE!
You Are Not Alone
The man or woman caught in the web of sex addiction often feels like they are drowning, pulling their spouse down with them.
A Way Out
However, there are men and women all across the globe who have discovered the life raft of hope when there seemed to be none. Healing is possible. Reconciliation of a fractured marriage is possible.
I am one of many hands reaching out from that life raft, telling you that you, too, can breathe free air again.
INDIVIDUAL THERAPY FOR SUBSTANCE USE ADDICTION
When Numbing Becomes a Way of Life
Addiction doesn’t always wear the same face. For some, it's a secret life online. For others, it’s the quiet drift into dependency on alcohol or other substances—socially acceptable on the outside, but hollowing on the inside.
Maybe it started with a drink to take the edge off. A pill to sleep. A hit to feel relaxed. And at first, it helped… until it didn’t. Over time, what once took the edge off began losing its effect. So you needed more. More to feel less. More to feel anything.
The Brain’s Adaptation: When the Comfort Stops Comforting
This is the nature of habituation. The brain, wired for survival and efficiency, starts to dull the impact of repeated substances.
The same dose doesn’t deliver the same relief. The same drink doesn’t create the same escape. What began as a way to feel better slowly becomes a compulsion to avoid feeling worse.
This isn’t about willpower. It’s about chemistry, patterns, and pain. And it can be changed—with support, honesty, and real tools for healing.
Substance Use as a Signal, Not a Flaw
Behind every pattern of substance use is something deeper—grief, trauma, anxiety, unmet needs, or just the crushing weight of being human.
Therapy isn’t about judging the behavior; it’s about understanding it.
What are you really reaching for? What part of you is crying out for relief?
When we shift from shame to curiosity, something powerful happens: we make space for change.
Building a Life You No Longer Need to Numb
Recovery isn’t about giving something up—it’s about getting your life back. It’s about rediscovering peace, clarity, connection, and self-trust.
We’ll work together to understand the root of your addiction, break the cycle of habituation, and build new ways to cope that don’t come with a price tag on your relationships, your integrity, or your health.
Whether you’re just starting to question your relationship with alcohol or you’re feeling stuck in a pattern that’s gotten out of control, you are not alone. There’s hope, and there’s help.
And I’d be honored to walk that road with you.
Specialties:
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Sex Addiction
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Affair Recovery
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Substance Use Addiction
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Internet Addiction
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Trauma
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OCD
Clients:
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Couples
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Individuals
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Teens
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Families
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Group Therapy
Modalities:
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IFS (Internal Family Systems)
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Family Systems
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EFT (Emotion-Focused Therapy)
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Person Centered
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Trauma Informed Therapy
License:
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Registered Associate Marriage Family Therapist, AMFT #145913
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Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452
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Employed by New Path Family of Therapy Centers Inc.