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Jamison Haase

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Couples Therapist for Communication, Repair, and Intimacy​
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My Story: From Small-Town Silence to Real Connection

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Small-Town Silence

I grew up in a tiny Minnesota town where the rule was simple: keep your feelings to yourself.

From the outside, things looked fine. Inside, substance use, depression, and shame were doing slow damage.

I got labeled “flaky” and “irresponsible,” and I believed it—until I learned to translate what was really going on underneath.​​

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Hollywood to Holding Space

After receiving a BFA in acting (1997), I spent almost 25 years on Los Angeles sets and started an on-camera school that helped hundreds of actors find their voice.
 

Coaching performers taught me to read subtext and body language, sit with big emotion without flinching, and catch the exact beat where a story turns—skills I now use every session with couples.

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The Pivot - and a Name for It

Post-COVID, I shifted to mental health.

While earning my Master’s in Marriage & Family Therapy, I finally got language for my lifelong “out of sync” feeling: ADHD.

Naming it didn’t fix everything; it took the shame out and gave me a framework. The new mission became clear: help people rewrite misunderstood stories—together.​

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Life at Home

I’m a husband and a dad of two.

At home we do what I ask couples to do: name what’s real, repair when we miss, and keep choosing each other.​​

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Couples Therapy With Me

I was taught to “suck it up” and “power through” my feelings, and if you grew up like I did, then talking about feelings can feel like trying to speak a language you were never taught.

I get how hard that is. I didn’t grow up fluent either, but I learned it the long way, and I wouldn’t ask you to do anything I don’t practiced at my own kitchen table.
 

What we’ll actually do together:
 

  • Slow the Cycle, See the Pattern. We’ll map the moment you both flip from protecting to attacking (or shutting down) each other. Once you can see it, you can change it.
     

  • Learn a Shared Emotional Language. Practical translation, not cheesy scripts. Think: “Here’s what I felt, here’s what I made it mean, here’s what I need.” We’ll build a menu of workable words so even the “non-feeler” has real tools.
     

  • Make Repair Repeatable. You’ll leave with step-by-step repair moves: how to call a time-out that reconnects, how to apologize without collapsing, and how to close the loop so the same argument doesn’t keep rerunning.
     

  • Rebuild Trust & Intimacy. Emotional safety and physical closeness are linked. We’ll restore safety first, then rebuild sexual and affectionate connection with doable, non-performative steps.
     

  • Turn Stress into Teamwork. Money, parenting, work overload, in-laws—we’ll stop treating the stressor as a character flaw and get you back on the same side of the table.
     

My stance: I don’t take sides; I take the side of the relationship. I’m direct, warm, and honest. I’ll challenge you when it helps and protect the space so you both feel respected.​​

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How I Work

  • Attachment- and trauma-informed: Past experiences shape present reactions—we’ll map them.
     

  • EFT & Gottman-informed: Get under the fight with Emotionally Focused Therapy; practice concrete Gottman tools at home.
     

  • Somatic & creative techniques: When words stall, we’ll use body awareness and simple, creative interventions to get you unstuck.

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Men’s Work: Strength Without the Armor

Where I’m from, the script for men was clear: push through, don’t feel, don’t show.

Add years of undiagnosed ADHD, and I carried a cocktail of distraction, anger, and shame—until therapy cracked it open.
 

With men, I offer a straight-talk space where strength and sensitivity can coexist.
 

We’ll focus on:
 

  • Decoding overload vs. “weakness”
     

  • Turning shutdowns/blowups into clear requests and regulation tools
     

  • Building shame-resilience and real accountability
     

  • Choosing the kind of partner, father, friend, and man you want to be

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Parenting and Family Dynamics

 

I love kids (after all, I have two).

They’re honest, funny, and relentless truth-tellers—and parenting them is one of the most important jobs on earth.

Kids also crank the volume on everything: love, logistics, and stress. I help couples stay connected while they lead their family well.
 

What that looks like in therapy:
 

  • Team Parenting (Not Parallel Parenting). We’ll align your approaches so bedtime, homework, screen time, and big feelings don’t turn you against each other. When parents hold together, kids relax.
     

  • Systems That Actually Help. Morning/evening routines, handoff plans, “after the meltdown” scripts, and weekly check-ins that lower chaos and increase warmth.
     

  • Protecting the Bond. Discipline without shame, boundaries without distance, more play and repair. Your relationship with your child—and with each other—comes first.
     

  • Seeing the Kid in Front of You. Every child has a nervous system and a pace. We’ll match your expectations to their developmental reality so success is possible (for them and you).
     

I take parenting seriously because it shapes how a family loves for decades. If we do our job, your home feels safer, softer, and more fun—for everyone.

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Neurodiversity (When It’s Part of the Picture)

I’m neurodivergent-affirming and experienced with ADHD, autism, and AuDHD dynamics inside relationships.

If neurodiversity is relevant, we’ll integrate it—without making it the whole story.
 

We may:
 

  • Name processing differences to remove blame
     

  • Design supports for time/organization/sensory needs
     

  • Translate communication so it fits how each brain works
     

Neurodiverse couples can be some of the most creative and resilient I see—once the relationship stops fighting the wiring and starts working with it.

 

Specialties

  • Couples communication, conflict, and repair
     

  • Rebuilding trust; emotional and sexual intimacy
     

  • Men’s issues and re-authoring masculinity
     

  • Parenting stress and family systems
     

  • Neurodiversity-informed care (ADHD, autism, AuDHD)
     

  • Executive-function coaching for real life

 

Modalities and Approach

  • Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
     

  • Gottman-informed skills
     

  • Attachment- and trauma-informed, person-centered care
     

  • Somatic and creative techniques

 

Education and Background

  • BFA in Acting (1997); nearly 25 years in film/TV and founder of an on-camera training studio
     

  • M.A. in Marriage & Family Therapy (post-COVID pivot; late ADHD diagnosis that reframed the journey)

 

License and Employment Info.

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Jamison
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